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Focusingor rather, having a conversation....Years ago...I was trolling the sales books at Barnes and Nobles and found this tiny book: The Power of Focusing - A practical Guide to Emotional Self-Healing by Ann Weiser Cornell, Ph.D. Price was right, so home it went. What a gem! Who knew? What it isThere are several books out there which map what is going on with your body with what is going on in your psyche - Louise Haye's books may come to mind. This is a technique which allows you to traverse the territory even without a map - how cool is that? It's based on having a loving & accepting (observant, subjective) relationship with your body. I'll provide a (very brief) overview here which might get you going. Hopefully this will intrigue you enough to track down a copy of the book or one of the books by Eugene T. Gendlin, the 'discoverer' of Focusing and the founder of Gendlin’s Focusing Institute in Chicago, and enjoy the full experience. This is another one of those techniques that is really useful to have under your belt. It's very low tech, very portable, and ridiculously effective. Crib Notes:
An ExampleI settle in and scan my body - my back has been hurting since yesterday. I get some descriptions of the size & shape of what is going on in there. The worries that go through my head cycle between "OK - is there something up with Lillie's back and am I taking that on?" "Is there something up with Carlos right now - and am I taking that on?" "Crud - have I eaten too many nuts again and am I about to pass a kidney stone... AGAIN. that last pic showed there was a ton of them in there.... and what's that about anyway? Am I denying my wisdom?" "Maybe I should get out the foam roller and do my back? maybe I did too much the other day? OMG - was it the weeding? am I just one move away from wrenching my back AGAIN!?" (!!!!!) I mean - each of those is a whole cycle of worry and despair! And I could also add in "Is this thing hereditary? What about what went on with my Mom? Will that happen to me? What about what's going on with.... etc" So here's the funny thing, if I pay attention to my back as I go through these worries, there is one where my back doesn't hurt so much - BINGO! As I acknowledge what it is again, the tightness releases. I've already 'looked' inside to see the shape, size, and density of this tightness and realized that 'clenching' is the best fit. (ie if I say to my body 'o - that's clenching' my body feels better.) I ask what is that about? And as I cycle through the different emotions I realize there is a deep sadness in there. I realize this because as I cycle through the emotions slowly, naming them, the pain subsides when I get to 'sadness' -- and I realize, it's not just a little bit of sadness, but some very deep sadness, and this washes over me. The tension in my body drops -- my shoulders drop down, the weight in my body seems to drop, everything seems to slump, and I feel very, very sad. But it's ok. My body feels better as I stay with it. I ask 'What is this about?' This takes some being clever on my part. It's not a one word thing like 'inadequacy' or 'resignation' or 'despair.' It's a whole sentence 'I'm not doing enough' It's not even 'I could do more.' That sentence doesn't help my back, it actually tightens again, but the sentence 'I'm not doing enough' and I a certain picture I keep seeing do help. I acknowledge to my body/back - "You feel as if you should be doing more." There is a tendency here to be logical and review whether or not this makes any sense - but that isn't helping my back. I have to stay on the feeling of "You feel as if you should be doing more." Now there is a little bit more sadness. I can't quite see the picture, but the sense is someone in the middle of a mess. It's like they've been working really hard to accomplish something and it's kind of a wreck anyway. As I get more information about the picture - and about the mental state of the person in the middle of it, my back gives me feedback about how accurate it is. When I get something accurate, my back feels better. There is this sense of (and again, I have to try out different phrasing) "you have done so much ... so very, very much, and yet you feel it wasn't good enough..." (ie "of value" doesn't work, "of consequence" doesn't work, "effective" doesn't work, etc.) Now when I acknowledge there is a tightness, it releases.
"all your efforts, you just made a mess anyway." This is where 'the adult/parent' kicks in -- I feel very much like my body needs comfort, no words, just that open-hearted presence, the 'there, there...' and a pat that represents the total acceptance that is the healing. There is the sense of just 'being there.' There is more to this session, for instance, I realize that the sentiment is pervasive... so I sit with myself, with my body, and I actively listen to it. Your turn!Do let me know how it goes!
Blessings,
Lynn
Reiki Master since
1997
06/01/13
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BooksI love books! These top three books help explain some about Resonance Repatterning® and PSYCH-KTM. I have reviews of and comments about more books with links into Amazon in my original 'Bookstore' as well as a bigger but less verbose Amazon eStore. Whenever I do online group Resonance Repatterning® series, I include books I've referenced in the resources sections for that series.
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